The people in my generation date like it’s a compulsion. Perhaps we are afraid of being alone, but all this Tindering and Instagram and social isolation in the face of using media to connect with people who may or may not be there leads me to believe that it’s not the fear of being alone, […]
Everyone in Oakland knows Brontez. If you don’t know Brontez, then you don’t really know Oakland, because he’s somewhat of a legend around these parts. From his days playing punk shows at The Gilman in the locally lauded, scantily clad, mostly pop outfit Gravy Train, to his recent notoriety with the Younger Lovers, his dance […]
I was casually scrolling through the internet the other evening when I came upon a post that was emblazoned with the warning, “LOCAL RAPIST.” It was an eye-catching post, and upon further examination I realized that the picture of the dangerous local rapist was someone that I knew peripherally through bars here in Oakland. It […]
In a recent article for Vanity Fair — which basically reads like a self-pitying search for the validation of monogamy in the modern era — the writer posits that hook up culture is an empty land filled with rapid hook ups and bad sex. While modern technology has given many of us the means to have rapid fire casual […]
Promiscuity implies a plurality of sexuality, but what exactly does that mean? People can refer to others as promiscuous, slutty, a player, et cetera, but what are society’s precise parameters for qualification? I think if we can hash this out, we can help demystify some of the language and bad attitudes around sexuality and sleeping […]
Hey. So, I know we live in an era where people are constantly outing each others’ privileges: male privilege, white privilege, ableist privilege, etc. To me, these things are pretty obvious. Being a man, being white, being physically able are all objective qualities that can be quantified and demarcated. It’s easy to identify who the […]
“How many people have you slept with?” I’m sitting with my friend at a bar, and this topic pops up. It pops up from time to time. “Like, straight intercourse? Around sixty men and women,” I reply nonchalantly. It’s an approximation. After a certain point I stopped counting because I kept on forgetting one or […]
“Sometimes I fuck prostitutes.” We’re sitting in my bed at 1am on a Wednesday night, with half a bottle of Hennessy on the night stand. “Really?” “Yeah, I just have them come over to the house and kick it. I wouldn’t fuck them if there wasn’t any chemistry, but, you know, I just wanted no-strings-attached […]
Ah, yes, whiskey dick. That often talked about, frequently chastised, sexually inconvenient condition that so many of us have fallen prey to after a long night of binge drinking at the Ruby Room (or whatever your local last call haunt is), and then stumbling home with whatever last call scraps looked fuckable enough for the […]
Maybe you’ve heard of this new tumblr that’s become pretty popular within the current conversation about feminism. It’s called Women Against Feminism. Go ahead. Check it out. Read some of those blurbs from women. How does it make you feel? Are you shocked? Nauseous? Repulsed? Because you’re supposed to be repulsed. You’re supposed to be […]
