August Slut of the Month: Lexi Laphor

Lexi Laphor is a spritely Australian, internet famous as “femmeasfuck” on tumblr+IG. Part of the queer porn new wave, her uniquely revolutionary approach to feminist/queer issues and mental health is met with an unabashed heartfelt spirit, turning the sex worker “bad bitch” typecast upside down with her passionate realness. Altering the restrictive and repressive molds of what the porn industry has often been for female bodied queer individuals and travelling between her homebase of Australia to the States (or to model in Berlin fashion week), Lexi has worked with QueerPornTV and Girls Out West and recently won a feminist porn award with Zahra Stardust for their DIY femme porn shot by Anna Brownfield. She models dressed in threads enviable of any seapunk princess (The Fabulous Stains, Marina Fini, Nikki Lipstick and Tata Christiane plus her store Hard Femme Vintage) — a femme merbabe performer and most of all a comrade.

How did you find yourself becoming interested in and eventually performing in porn?

I wrote an essay at uni in my media class and started watching porn for “research” and it was the first time I felt like I was actively engaging in watching porn. It inspired me a lot creatively. I wanted to be in it performing and expressing my sexuality in a way where I had more of a chance to curate and collaborate. I first did porn because my housemate did it to get cash for an art project. At that stage I had been doing other forms of sex work for a couple of years and have always been a very performative and sexual person. It was encouraging to see a place where a pierced hairy queer mermaid like me could engage in porn with lots of creative control and an inspiring and ethical team. I also have a lot of respect for counter culture, body positive, hard femme anything so it was exciting to see that this existed in porn and could exist in new ways in my life.

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Has the internet been a major tool in networking and in your personal evolution?

I actually discovered Courtney Trouble and feminist porn through tumblr! Things I couldn’t see reflected in Australia or Melbourne surround me on tumblr. People talking about mental health, body positivity, sexuality, gender, sexism, ableism. People offering support, holding space and raising discussion. I just recently made a twitter account. I wanted Charlotte Gainsbourg to follow me but she hasn’t so far. What it did do though was connect me to queers within the Bay Area porn scene, which is inspiring and helps me build community.

Has the internet worked against you in any way?

Two weeks after shooting my first porn, my entire high school/hometown was gossiping about it and guys I used to know were linking it around. I was in the States at Queer Pride when I found that out so I felt a lot of safety and distance and was having too much fun to really let it get to me! I don’t feel as worried about people finding out about my internet life or judgement around my sexuality. I just assume that everyone knows and if they don’t like it, that’s not my problem! My advice is expect whatever you put out there to be ripped off by other sites and shared around. Expect the people you don’t want to see it will see it. It’s important to know the risks of expressing your sexuality on the internet, but also for me it is important not to let fear hold me back from expressing and creating space for my sexuality and self. If it’s what you want to do, you will find like-minded people.

What movements or personalities have inspired you?

In general what inspires me is seeing women and queer artists creating and expressing themselves. Bonus points if it’s transgressive! I think my first really radical encounter was seeing the impact that Kathleen Hanna and Riot Grrrl had on the punk/music scene and more generally on myself and other girls/women. Nikki Lipstick and Alis Pelleschi with their convergence of sexuality, creativity and fashion. Porn stars Arabella Raphael and Chelsea Poe. Zahra Stardust‘s pole performances!

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I am: 2 real 4 u

By Day: I’m traveling thru dreams n my bed is my best friend!

By Night: I am hyperactive, hyper present, vampiress taking ur money n ur mind.  

My Vices: I’m super impatient n easily irritated! Like if I am busy scrolling IG on the train n u r some dude attempting 2 make convo or desp 2 b acknowledged n validated then prepare 4 immediate decapitation!  

My Virtues: Being a virgo. Helps me stay grounded n view the world as a place w opportunities 2 constantly learn n grow.

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The Present:  V chill. I just gave myself a tarot reading n saw my present self n life displayed right there in front of me. I’m in bed w snacks n books n instruments n too many tabs open. The feeling of infinite possibilities 4 my afternoon n night.

The Future: Travel! I am going 2 America in 3 weeks!!! First stop SF n then I will defs visit LA n NYC. I can’t wait 2 c internet bbs n dance, have orgies, shoot fashion, shoot porn n road trip!

Favourite Flavour: peppermint choc chip ice cream, white choc chip cookie, praline, custard donut, omg pls don’t get me started i cannot stop

Favourite Feeling: That calming n filling feeling of gratitude n interconnectedness. 4 me nature moments bring that on like being under a waterfall or feeling the sun kiss ur body or a hummingbird changes time by stopping right in front of ur face. But sometimes its other things like a stranger writes u a loving msg on tumblr or ur fisting someone n while getting blissfully obliterated by someone else’s Hitachi.

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Favorite Fabric: holographic lycra 4eva.

Style is: Creative expression! Like using visually pleasing items n materials to vomit ur inner self all over ur outer self.  

Slut is: Creative expression! Being brave n honest. Loving urself n others enough 2 deconstruct desire n find out more about urself n ur lovers! Refusing 2 b limited or shamed by people who r committed 2 misunderstanding u.  

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Photo Credits: http://femmeasfuck.tumblr.com/